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Muslim guys obsession with Andrew Tate

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By – Mubina C

  1. Andrew feeds their ego

Many young Muslim guys, especially in the desi community, have always been given way too much importance at home. Which has impacted their psychological health in such an alarming way that it has led them to believe the world revolves around them. YES, we are talking about the mama’s boys and dadi’s jigar ka tukda.

What we got to put up with.

When a misogynist like Andrew says, “women are men’s property after marriage and should sit at home and make coffee for their husband,” ghar ka nawabs took it seriously. They know that the Holy Quran states the opposite. When mommy dearest has kept them pampered since day one, and their younger sister is doing their laundry, while grandma willed everything to their name, Muslim guys likely will follow men like Andrew Tate. Every word Andrew Tate speaks is for men who have gotten everything served on a silver platter by women in their households.

Because in their mind, they think the females in their family are doing it out of love and compassion. Muslim parents have raised their sons as the culture wants, not as Islam commands. Middle Eastern and South Asian guys feel entitled because we have made them believe that is the truth. Sons feel they are to protect and assist the family when the father cannot be present. So sons should be looked after more. This may have been the truth years ago, but in this era, daughters are no less. A man’s job is not only to care for a woman financially. If he is taking care of his wife financially, that does not mean she is for granted and is to be treated like his maid. Discrimination between our daughters and sons has made males in our community think that we females need them to survive. Hence, When it is time to look for a wife, they need someone who can cook and clean after them but with a college degree because they need to hold up a standard in front of family members and friends. They cannot have people thinking they are backward now, can they? What will society say?
Muslim ladies in this generation have decided it is better to stay single because the married ones are divorcing their husbands for this concern. So let me be the one to tell you guys in caps clearly since long-term inhaling of hookah smoke might have impacted some of your brain cells.


WE ARE NOT YOUR PROPERTY AND NOT YOUR MOTHERS, WHO WILL MAKE COFFEE FOR YOU AFTER WORKING ALL DAY WHILE YOU SIT AND PLAY VIDEO GAMES. Maybe if some of you learned the Quran and Hadiths, you would know how a lady should be treated.

2. Andrew is a Muslim now, so he gets a pass on the sexist remarks.

It is obvious why Andrew Tate became Muslim. Most of his followers are misogynistic Muslim men. It is better to become part of a community if you plan to make a profit from them. It is a simple business technique. Some might even call this spiritual fraud. He knew well that Muslims welcome everyone to Islam with open arms forgiving his/hers past sins. He knew well what to say and to whom to increase his popularity after being banned from all social media accounts. This is a man that exploits women as a means of business. Someone who likes to live in Romania because it is more corrupt than the west. A man that should have never been given a chance to mislead our youths. Muslim sisters knew the mic should have been seized away from him soon as women’s rights in Islam came up on his podcast. Let us not forget the countless time’s Muslim sisters warned their brothers about this man. A type of man our Prophets told us to avoid. Who show themselves to be believers when they are not.

Muslim men idolize an influencer that posts tweets about Islam with one hand while opening a strip club with the other. Do Muslim men want to guess where Andrew got the money for the strip clubs? Hustler University. Where Muslim men signed up in packs like fools, how did men read the name out loud and think it was legit? If you cannot tell from the university’s name. The institute is a total scam. I would have never guessed.
Someone, please inform Moe from the corner store. An actual university course does not cost $50; they do not double and give you your money back. The money is gone Moe.

tata, Allah Hafiz


Remember, you men told us to stay in the kitchen and make coffee. We made it. Now it is time you men smell it and wake up! When we have Influencers like Andrew talking about our religion and a group of Muslim men supporting him. It does make our religion look immoral.
Regardless, after all of this, sisters were labeled “so-called feminists” when we objected to Tate’s arguments. Before, you go on to say he is now a Muslim brother and not to judge his past. Scroll through his Twitter and see the number of times he posted sexist and degrading tweets about women AFTER he took the shahada. Our brothers need to realize that when you welcome and support men like Andrew Tate, you indirectly tell him and others how you view women and how our religion views women. You are telling a sister that if she gets raped, it is her fault, and she needs to bear the consequences. That woman should not drive. I do not even understand how most guys agreed to this one. When men tell us to drive to buy groceries, pick up the kids from school, Masjid, and soccer practice as they rot on the couch. Furthermore, Andrew even said that ladies are comparable to dogs. You won’t see Muslim women comparing men to dogs on live podcasts because we are wise to know dogs are loyal.

first it was doorknobs now its dogs

3. Choose better role models.

After watching a few Youtube videos of Andrew Tates’s conversion, I got an idea why Muslim men are fascinated by him. First, he talks about why he left Christianity. He quotes that Christians do not stand united when their religion is mocked, while Muslims do. Right there, he puts Islam in the spotlight. Then he proceeds to explain the amount of evil taking place around us. He does not go in-depth about Islam as he is still learning the religion.
We all have simple morality when we put religion aside. It comes down to good vs. evil. One does not do several evil things and attach themself to a particular religion. But, they can use religion to escape from their consequences. Andrew knew the Muslim community would save him if his evil acts got caught. When he got arrested, the Muslim men on Twitter came to save him with the hashtag #saveandrewtate. Many Muslim preachers have done this also. Where they used Islam to commit heinous crimes. Andrew states that he was a devoted Christian. However, he was a Christian when he opened up strip clubs, was accused of rape, owned casinos, has an only fans business, and has a webcam business. I am pretty sure none of the things I listed are allowed in Christianity or Islam. The man you state will bring masculinity to Islam, top G, earns doing haram. His net worth of $700 million is haram. Do you believe he will give up his luxurious lifestyle for Islam? What has he done as a Muslim other than reject alcohol at a casino surrounded by naked women? Would you be a proud parent if your son did all that Andrew Tate does and still called himself Muslim? Do not get me wrong, many Muslim brothers drink and commit zina while preaching about Islam. It does not take a minute for the Muslim community to point fingers and expose them, so why does Andrew Tate get a pass? It is only because he is a wealthy celebrity who exploits women. The same women our Prophet Muhammad SAW told you to respect and care for while on his deathbed. Same women that have Paradise lying beneath their feet when they become a mother because men are not capable of handling the pain of childbirth.

Andrew got one thing right: Muslims stay together regarding our faith. That is the power of the Ummah. We do not change our beliefs for woke culture and western influence. Praying five times a day does not make a person religious. It makes them Muslim. There is nothing wrong with Andrew Tate learning about Islam. May he learn from Islam and change his ways. However, a line has to be drawn between welcoming someone to Islam and hero-worshipping them. A request from us sisters, please follow better influencers who honor women who don’t compare us to animals.

Urdu to English translation

– Dadi’s Jigar ka tukda Literal (Grandma’s piece of liver) Idiom (the most dear)

-Ghar ke nawab ( Prince of the house)

Hailey Bieber Launches New Skincare Range, Rhode

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(A skincare routine that women of color have used for decades and were called “ghetto” for. But it’s suddenly trending now that a famous white woman reintroduces it.)

Hailey Bieber has launched her new skincare line, Rhode, designed to ‘glaze the skin with nutrients and quality products. Images: Courtesy Instagram It isn’t uncommon for a celebrity to launch a makeup or skincare brand, from Kim Kardashian’s new line SKKN by Kim, Rosie Huntington-Whiteley’s Rose Inc and JLo Beauty by Jennifer Lopez, there is […]

Hailey Bieber Launches New Skincare Range, Rhode

It has been a long time since I wrote something. I have been busy taking care of a newborn. My apologies!

Hailey Bieber has been trending on Twitter and Tiktok lately, and no, it’s not only because of her interview on the podcast ‘She is the Daddy’ covering up her cheating with her now husband Justin Bieber while he was dating Selena Gomez. It’s her clean girl aesthetic look that got the Latina, Brown, and Black women bothered. Haley rebranded a glazed lip look on her Instagram a week ago that has been used by women of color from low income household since the 80s. A look that was looked down upon and considered ghetto by upper class whites. Because many women of color in the 80s and 90s couldn’t afford high brand lipsticks and lip gloss with brow pencil used as lip liner was cheaper.

This appropriation has been happening for some time now. It happened with hoop earrings and slick back hairstyles. We are never credited for such trends but mocked. Soon as a celebrity displays the same look it’s the newest fashion sensation. So next time you see a white model or actress revealing a new trend, do research and find the origins of it.

Got BreastMilk?

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Empty shelves at Target

By- Mubina C

It has been five months since the formula shortage was addressed in the U.S. Maker of popular baby formulas, Abbott laboratories, closed a manufacturing facility in Sturgis, Michigan, in February 2022 due to contamination problems. This contamination contributed to the death of 2 infants and many sick children. Since then, mothers of newborns have hit the stores desperate to find even a box of formula while holding their crying and starving babies in their arms. In addition, many parents drive 4-6 hours to different states looking for baby milk. One mother drove from Austin to Dallas, searching stores with her baby in the backseat.

While others are lucky to have excessive breast milk, some are not. As a result, mothers give their babies donated breast milk as a last resort. A friend of mine in NJ had her sister, who has a five-month baby of her own, breastfeed her newborn. She said she tried everything from lactating drinks to pumping more. Unfortunately, the newborn refused to take her milk.

However, as formula shipments come in from Europe, there is no solution for parents who have to give their babies specialized formula due to specific health issues. A mother wrote on ‘what to expect’ that her baby, due to severe allergy uses a unique formula that is nowhere to be found in stores, and now her baby is admitted to NICU.

As someone who is going to deliver soon, this situation makes me furious. How could the government be so unprepared for something like this?. Even though the Biden administration has stated that the formula will be in stock by July, nothing is guaranteed. In places where the formula is available, parents buy them in bulks—leaving less for others.

Mothers to be, what are you doing to prepare for the shortage?

Will I ever love myself again?

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A HARD PILL TO SWALLOW

Many changes occur in a women’s body during pregnancy. After delivery, women go out of their way to get their bodies the way they used to. From postpartum diet to daily exercise. Many even go to extreme levels like surgery. But we fail to realize that some things might not ever be the same. For example, your stretch marks might take years to go away. The days you stayed out late to party with your friends will be missed. You might wonder how your life went from mixing drinks to making a bottle for your newborn every few hours. That postpartum back pain may continue until a decade. YEP, A DECADE!. Your daily schedule has now changed for someone else. And it’s going to stay like that for some time.

You might scroll through your old prepregnancy photos and want to cry. And it is entirely alright to shed a tear. Our body has done so much. Science says a human body can bear up to 45 dels (units) of pain, yet a mother feels 57 dels (units) of pain when giving birth. Even after the baby is born, we are exhausted and sleep-deprived, slowing down our recovery process. Becoming a problem that now starts affecting our mental state.

LET’S TALK ABOUT DEPRESSION

One in seven women suffers from PPD (postpartum depression). Symptoms can appear anytime during pregnancy to the first 12 months after childbirth. Suicide accounts for about 20% of postpartum death and is the second leading cause of mortality in postpartum women. Black and Hispanic women are more likely to get PPD and less likely to get treatment. Did you know that there are 7 types of mood disorders that a woman can experience from pregnancy to postpartum?. So a mother can suffer in silence with a disorder and won’t even know she has it.

If you or someone you know is experiencing symptoms, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. I myself have met with a counselor while being pregnant. Even if you don’t suffer from PPD there is a positive feeling you get just by sharing your thoughts with others.

Pregnancy and motherhood are not a picnic. And it is unfortunate that many don’t give attention to it. There will be struggles that mothers need to overcome. For working and single mothers, it may be more challenging than others. Speak to your gynecologist and contact online support groups for assistance. Don’t feel guilty to take time out for yourself to love yourself so you can make a healthy and positive environment for you and your baby.

Happy International Women’s Day!! 2022

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To my sisters in Africa fighting for even access to education, To the daughters in India forced to marry as a child and have her dreams snatched away, To the mothers in Mexico and Afghanistan facing domestic violence because the government failed to protect you , To the women around the world who face sexual assault, abuse, low pay wage working 10x harder than a male coworker who makes more, not getting inadequate health care. May you overcome the gender discrimination. WE SEE YOUR STRUGGLES AND WILL KEEP FIGHTING FOR YOU!

Favoritism In The Workplace

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Written by -Mubina Afreen

I parked my car in my workplace parking lot and took a deep breath looking through my updated schedule on my phone. It would be an overwhelming day, and I was trying my best to prepare myself mentally. I told myself I wasn’t the only one. People work to keep a roof over their heads, not because it’s entertaining. I had even talked about this with my friends who told me, “Jobs aren’t supposed to be enjoyable. Favoritism and discrimination happen in every workplace. Suck it up.” That is definitely what I did for some time. One can take legal action for being discriminated not for being a victim of favoritism.

A few months ago, I started working at this ABA therapy center and had already seen enough favoritism and sexism. It’s not like it was my first time witnessing individuals being biased at work. I was disappointed because I earned my undergraduate degree in Psychology and chose to be in this profession, constantly desiring to help others. But felt like this job put my mental health on the line. I had registered for my RBT exam in a week and was on the verge of quitting.

I asked my coworker, hired one week after me, about his schedule and his paired clients. He was paired with a different client for the week, many of them with mild autism that didn’t show much problematic behavior. In comparison, I had the same two individuals with ASD and severe complex behavior for four months every day. Yet, I never complained and was attentive throughout all my therapy sessions. I came to work each day with a positive attitude and even asked my employer for feedback on my sessions. But, I knew I was putting all my energy into something that wasn’t helping me grow. Whenever a monthly therapist competency assessment was scheduled, I was paired with a child I had never worked with before—consistently scoring no more than an 80 because I didn’t know the client’s program well.

I remember calling out sick for a day, and the RBT that took care of my client complained the next day because the client scratched and bit her. So it was decided by the BCBA not to pair her with him again. I went through the very thing but was told to “reposition myself” so I wouldn’t get hurt. A few other BT were going for their RBT exam, but I sensed that I was the only one being treated unjustly. Whenever I talked about an idea, it was ignored. If it was a work-related issue, I was given a “puppy face” and told to “hang in there.” I was good, just not good enough to take up a new task.

I didn’t understand what I was doing wrong. Was it because I wasn’t gifting my schedule coordinator fancy gifts?! or complementing or kissing up to the BCBA? Maybe it was not staying late and gossiping about the client’s parents with other coworkers?. So I googled to see if others in the same occupation were having the same difficulty. I was startled at the number of people commenting on a Reddit post about this very problem, some much worse. I scanned through the post, looking for a solution. I did find a few. I did talk to my employer regarding what I was facing. It somewhat got better, and I didn’t feel so burned out. I passed my RBT exam and still work at the same center part-time. Not because I NEED a job but because I like working with my clients and positively impacting their lives. Even if there are hundreds of reasons to quit, find one reason that makes you stay. And my clients and appreciating parents were my reason. I am still searching for better opportunities that will help me improve too. However, I realized that no job would be perfect, but we need to be to maintain professionalism and integrity.

Let’s face it favoritism has taken place in at least one workplace you have been employed, or it might be every. You work your behind off day and night only for Dena, who gives your boss ‘surprise’ gifts to receive the next project. Favoritism in the workplace is toxic and illegal, yet it is still taking place. In a survey conducted by Penn Schoen Berland and Georgetown University researchers, about 75 percent of the survey respondents say they have witnessed favoritism, while 23 percent admit they practice favoritism. In addition, 83% agreed that unfairness leads to worse decisions in promoting people.

Either you can ignore it or talk to your manager about it (I highly doubt they will do anything). Or you can start pointing it out. Let others know how you feel. But if there comes, a time work stress starts to affect your mental health. So then, take some time off for yourself. Maintain your sense of self.

Work life be like

Happiness is a mindset

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Materialistic things gives me happiness

After reading “Joy of living” by Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, I realized individuals can have everything they want in life yet still be miserable. scientifically, happiness is a mood that is a temporary state of well-being, and in happiness, we feel joy, an emotion that comes and goes. At times we find ourselves looking for happiness in objects, places, and other people but not within. I could be sad and spend the whole day with my loved ones and feel happy for the time being to escape being disappointed and lonely. But after it’s over, I suddenly feel depressed again and try distracting myself with materialistic things. My escape from hurt would be a book, yoga, shopping, or watching a movie.

If I am not happy all the time, does that make me depressed?

Like many other women, I have had an attachment to worldly life. Such as social media, hours would go by, but I couldn’t put down my phone, and when I do put it away, I would turn towards another technological device. I wanted to keep my Instagram and Snapchat stories updated but not my mental health. For me, Social media was a way to cope with my mental health. Looking at the lives of others and picturing myself in their shoes. It wasn’t that I couldn’t go out and have fun I just didn’t want to. At times I did the same things repeatedly to get a better result. EVERYTHING I did had to be perfect. If I couldn’t get it right after several tries, it would leave me feeling anxious and upset, affecting my self-esteem. I would work extra hours, avoiding what was stressing me out. Sometimes I would wonder if what I was going through was depression or another disorder?. So I did what many South Asians find taboo, finally made an appointment with a counselor. 

The ups and downs 

At the end of the chapter, the author has told his readers to make peace with their minds and stop doubting their value. Which is something similar to what my counselor told me. Happiness is a positive emotion that we respond to AFTER enduring painful feelings. Overcoming our stress and worries is what makes us grow. All humans experience up and downs in life; it becomes a problem when we neglect to seek help for our troubled mental state. If you feel depressed, don’t be ashamed to reach out to someone you know or a mental health practitioner. 

Women of Color

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By-Mubina (Afreen)
I am a woman of color 
the one who is racially profiled 
and wrongfully convicted 
are my race, ethnicity, and faith such a threat? 
why do I wanting the same privilege as you 
makes you so upset? 
I am a woman of color 
who is attacked and falsely accused 
for starting a pandemic and putting the world in a troubled state 
if only they knew a much worse disease is hate 
I am a woman of color 
who doesn't get a callback or a job interview 
for this reason only, "my name does not sound white" 
but I keep my head high because, at the end of every tunnel, there is light 
I am a woman of color 
who suffers violent crimes 
The world disregarding my silent cries
I am a woman of color who is killed in the name of honor 
raised to believe the only way a lady can fit into society is to be proper 
if I have the freedom to wear whatever I want 
why am I viewed as oppressed 
when I choose to cover myself? 
Or a flaunter if I am provocatively dressed? 
I am a woman of color 
who is exoticized and hypersexualized 
in American films dominated by white men 
objectifying and degrading me again and again 
I am a woman of color 
who is excluded and has my dreams shattered 
like my voice never mattered 
everyone ignoring my troubles 
If you turn off social media you will see, white women are not the only ones 
with tears and struggles

A 40 minutes train conversation with an escort – M.C

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It was the Fall of 2017. I was on the F train going home after a long day at work. It was getting dark, and there weren’t many people in the subway car. After a few stops, the doors opened, and a blonde woman in her early 30’s walked in and sat down few seats away from me. She held this beautiful green handbag.

“Nice purse” I told her. “Thanks” she responded with a smile. We had a 40 minutes long conversation in which one of the questions I asked her was what she did for a living. “I am an escort” she told me. At that time, I had no idea what that was, and there was no WIFI on the train for me to search it up on google.

“what’s that?” I asked with a confused look on my face. “It’s when you get paid to spend time with someone at a social event.” she replied. I was surprised I never heard about people giving money to spend time with them. For a moment, I thought about quitting my retail job and becoming an escort myself. “That’s so cool! how much do you make, if you don’t mind me asking?” I know it was a personal question I don’t usually ask people, but this was the first time I learned such a job exists. “around $400-$700 per hour.” I was extremely shocked. After almost breaking every bone in my body and putting my mental health at risk, that was the amount I made in a one-week paycheck. I have made many friends and spent time with them, but the most I had gotten was a Starbucks coffee.

Before I could start asking her more questions, she cut me off by telling me that being an escort is somewhat like prostitution. At times escorts are paid to have sex with the person they are accompanying. She looked a little embarrassed and continued by saying, “I don’t tell people because they are likely to judge.” I understood what she was trying to say, and it was true. I asked her why she told me a “hijabi woman” wasn’t she afraid I might say something or judge her?

” Yeah. But you seem nice,” she responded. I thanked her and changed the topic before it could get more awkward. We started talking about college courses, and she informed me she had a degree in graphic design. I didn’t understand and had to question her why she worked as an escort after having a degree. She said it was a quick way to give her brother financial help, who was fighting cancer. Her brother was the only family she had. Her mother passed away when she was a teenager, and her father abandoned their family right after her brother was born. She did work as a graphic designer for a year or so. Unfortunately, most of her salary went into paying rent and bills. She made more money as an escort in NYC than two proper jobs and overtime.

She told me many of her childhood friends were Muslim. They would bring her Indian sweets during the month of Ramadan. Some of them she was still friends with and had them on Facebook. “you are a strong woman, and your brother is lucky to have a sister like you.” I assured her. After volunteering at a senior center with many cancer patients last summer, I wanted to help her. I wrote a list of organizations that give cancer individuals financial assistance and ways to get it. She was thankful and relieved that someone was willing to help and not pass judgment. Her stop came, and we said our goodbyes. That was the last time I saw her. When she left, I kept thinking about the struggles and offensive comments this woman must have been facing.

At times we are so quick to judge others we ignore to ask what’s the reason and how they are coping with that problem. Even though sex work is shunned and many reasons why that is. We are all human beings who require emotional support and respect. Someone’s life choices shouldn’t be the reason why they don’t deserve that. That day was the first time I had a conversation with a sex worker. Talking to her made me realize that society looks down on prostitution but not the people paying for it. What about the males who exploit and abuse these women? Shouldn’t they be held accountable?.

Sex work has been practiced since the beginning of time and is illegal in many countries. After society and religion came into existence, governing systems were designed. Whatever disturbs this system, such as prostitution, is criticized. The community believes that prostitutes sell their moral value for money and don’t hold dignity. After many decades, men have never been responsible for their sexual behavior, but women still are. In many cultures, a woman’s body is referred to as a temple and is supposed to guard it and prevent male sexual behavior.

Prostitution may be forced or a choice, but it is our responsibility as decent human beings to not judge and try to understand why and how they are in that profession. Try providing help and not ridicule them. If you feel someone is sex trafficked, don’t overlook it and reach out to authorities.