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Muslim guys obsession with Andrew Tate

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By – Mubina C

  1. Andrew feeds their ego

Many young Muslim guys, especially in the desi community, have always been given way too much importance at home. Which has impacted their psychological health in such an alarming way that it has led them to believe the world revolves around them. YES, we are talking about the mama’s boys and dadi’s jigar ka tukda.

What we got to put up with.

When a misogynist like Andrew says, “women are men’s property after marriage and should sit at home and make coffee for their husband,” ghar ka nawabs took it seriously. They know that the Holy Quran states the opposite. When mommy dearest has kept them pampered since day one, and their younger sister is doing their laundry, while grandma willed everything to their name, Muslim guys likely will follow men like Andrew Tate. Every word Andrew Tate speaks is for men who have gotten everything served on a silver platter by women in their households.

Because in their mind, they think the females in their family are doing it out of love and compassion. Muslim parents have raised their sons as the culture wants, not as Islam commands. Middle Eastern and South Asian guys feel entitled because we have made them believe that is the truth. Sons feel they are to protect and assist the family when the father cannot be present. So sons should be looked after more. This may have been the truth years ago, but in this era, daughters are no less. A man’s job is not only to care for a woman financially. If he is taking care of his wife financially, that does not mean she is for granted and is to be treated like his maid. Discrimination between our daughters and sons has made males in our community think that we females need them to survive. Hence, When it is time to look for a wife, they need someone who can cook and clean after them but with a college degree because they need to hold up a standard in front of family members and friends. They cannot have people thinking they are backward now, can they? What will society say?
Muslim ladies in this generation have decided it is better to stay single because the married ones are divorcing their husbands for this concern. So let me be the one to tell you guys in caps clearly since long-term inhaling of hookah smoke might have impacted some of your brain cells.


WE ARE NOT YOUR PROPERTY AND NOT YOUR MOTHERS, WHO WILL MAKE COFFEE FOR YOU AFTER WORKING ALL DAY WHILE YOU SIT AND PLAY VIDEO GAMES. Maybe if some of you learned the Quran and Hadiths, you would know how a lady should be treated.

2. Andrew is a Muslim now, so he gets a pass on the sexist remarks.

It is obvious why Andrew Tate became Muslim. Most of his followers are misogynistic Muslim men. It is better to become part of a community if you plan to make a profit from them. It is a simple business technique. Some might even call this spiritual fraud. He knew well that Muslims welcome everyone to Islam with open arms forgiving his/hers past sins. He knew well what to say and to whom to increase his popularity after being banned from all social media accounts. This is a man that exploits women as a means of business. Someone who likes to live in Romania because it is more corrupt than the west. A man that should have never been given a chance to mislead our youths. Muslim sisters knew the mic should have been seized away from him soon as women’s rights in Islam came up on his podcast. Let us not forget the countless time’s Muslim sisters warned their brothers about this man. A type of man our Prophets told us to avoid. Who show themselves to be believers when they are not.

Muslim men idolize an influencer that posts tweets about Islam with one hand while opening a strip club with the other. Do Muslim men want to guess where Andrew got the money for the strip clubs? Hustler University. Where Muslim men signed up in packs like fools, how did men read the name out loud and think it was legit? If you cannot tell from the university’s name. The institute is a total scam. I would have never guessed.
Someone, please inform Moe from the corner store. An actual university course does not cost $50; they do not double and give you your money back. The money is gone Moe.

tata, Allah Hafiz


Remember, you men told us to stay in the kitchen and make coffee. We made it. Now it is time you men smell it and wake up! When we have Influencers like Andrew talking about our religion and a group of Muslim men supporting him. It does make our religion look immoral.
Regardless, after all of this, sisters were labeled “so-called feminists” when we objected to Tate’s arguments. Before, you go on to say he is now a Muslim brother and not to judge his past. Scroll through his Twitter and see the number of times he posted sexist and degrading tweets about women AFTER he took the shahada. Our brothers need to realize that when you welcome and support men like Andrew Tate, you indirectly tell him and others how you view women and how our religion views women. You are telling a sister that if she gets raped, it is her fault, and she needs to bear the consequences. That woman should not drive. I do not even understand how most guys agreed to this one. When men tell us to drive to buy groceries, pick up the kids from school, Masjid, and soccer practice as they rot on the couch. Furthermore, Andrew even said that ladies are comparable to dogs. You won’t see Muslim women comparing men to dogs on live podcasts because we are wise to know dogs are loyal.

first it was doorknobs now its dogs

3. Choose better role models.

After watching a few Youtube videos of Andrew Tates’s conversion, I got an idea why Muslim men are fascinated by him. First, he talks about why he left Christianity. He quotes that Christians do not stand united when their religion is mocked, while Muslims do. Right there, he puts Islam in the spotlight. Then he proceeds to explain the amount of evil taking place around us. He does not go in-depth about Islam as he is still learning the religion.
We all have simple morality when we put religion aside. It comes down to good vs. evil. One does not do several evil things and attach themself to a particular religion. But, they can use religion to escape from their consequences. Andrew knew the Muslim community would save him if his evil acts got caught. When he got arrested, the Muslim men on Twitter came to save him with the hashtag #saveandrewtate. Many Muslim preachers have done this also. Where they used Islam to commit heinous crimes. Andrew states that he was a devoted Christian. However, he was a Christian when he opened up strip clubs, was accused of rape, owned casinos, has an only fans business, and has a webcam business. I am pretty sure none of the things I listed are allowed in Christianity or Islam. The man you state will bring masculinity to Islam, top G, earns doing haram. His net worth of $700 million is haram. Do you believe he will give up his luxurious lifestyle for Islam? What has he done as a Muslim other than reject alcohol at a casino surrounded by naked women? Would you be a proud parent if your son did all that Andrew Tate does and still called himself Muslim? Do not get me wrong, many Muslim brothers drink and commit zina while preaching about Islam. It does not take a minute for the Muslim community to point fingers and expose them, so why does Andrew Tate get a pass? It is only because he is a wealthy celebrity who exploits women. The same women our Prophet Muhammad SAW told you to respect and care for while on his deathbed. Same women that have Paradise lying beneath their feet when they become a mother because men are not capable of handling the pain of childbirth.

Andrew got one thing right: Muslims stay together regarding our faith. That is the power of the Ummah. We do not change our beliefs for woke culture and western influence. Praying five times a day does not make a person religious. It makes them Muslim. There is nothing wrong with Andrew Tate learning about Islam. May he learn from Islam and change his ways. However, a line has to be drawn between welcoming someone to Islam and hero-worshipping them. A request from us sisters, please follow better influencers who honor women who don’t compare us to animals.

Urdu to English translation

– Dadi’s Jigar ka tukda Literal (Grandma’s piece of liver) Idiom (the most dear)

-Ghar ke nawab ( Prince of the house)

Your Soulmate Is Not Someone Else’s Husband. Part 1

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“Zainab, can you pass the sauce, please,” Sana asked as she reached out her hand to grab the bottle at the end of the table. I couldn’t believe how calm Sana was. Did she not realize she was breaking up a marriage? How could a woman sit relaxed and eat without a care knowing she is tearing apart a family? This was not how mom raised us to be.

Zayn our friend from H.S gave me a side eye with his head down in embarrassment fidgeting his fingers.I didn’t know if he was embarrassed by being caught red-handed or cheating on his wife.

My dad was so focused on the news he had no clue about what was happening around him. I didn’t plan on telling him either. It was only a few months since mom passed away and telling him about Sana and Zayn would cause him more pain.

“I should leave Noor must be waiting for my call.” Zayn said as he got up to wash his hands.

“YES! Right now your WIFE must be waiting.” I demanded. I had never felt this type of anger before. Sana ignored me as she shoved a whole meatball down her throat.

Boy if you don’t LEAVE

Was she going to act like nothing happened in the kitchen before dinner? How could my baby sister become so shameless?

Zayn left in a hurry closing the door behind him. Saying a quick good bye to my dad.

I grabbed Sana by the arm and dragged her up to my bedroom. Dropping my plate of food in the dining area.

“You are hurting me Zainab!”

I faced Sana towards me “You are doing the same to others but differently. Why were you kissing Zayn? Stop playing stupid I know what I saw.

Sana rolled her eyes. “I like him since H.S. I love him and he is my soul mate. Just because he is married doesn’t mean he loves his wife.”

“Someone else’s husband cannot be your soulmate, Sana. How could you be so dumb to believe that? Zayn ignored you throughout H.S. and now that he is bored with his wife you are suddenly his soulmate. It’s absurd!”

“He told me he will leave her. Their marriage has become toxic.”

Sana’s words felt like thorns pricked in my ear.

Did she fall on her head and lose all sense. How gullible could my sister be.

Men have been giving the same excuses yet we never learn.

“Sana, Noor is pregnant. Please tell me You don’t believe that he loves you. I caught you two red-handed and Zayn didn’t even take a minute to run out that door. He didn’t even turn around to say bye to you. He is using you. And what you both are doing to Noor is wrong.”

“Noor is pregnant?” Sana seated down on the bed as tears rolled down her eyes.

“Yes, 3 months. She and Zayn have been trying for 2 years now. Noor is at her mom’s place because she is sick and needs someone to care for her while Zayn is at work. Zayn’s mom told Nani a week ago. How long has this been going on between you two?”

“A few weeks. He told me Noor is staying over at her mom’s place for her cousin’s wedding.He lied to me this whole time.He told me they will divorce soon. I am going to call Noor and tell her everything.”

I snatched the phone out of her hand.

Please “Act like a lady” and don’t worry about him “Boys will be boys”

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At least every woman has been told once in her life to “act like a lady” by her mother or older women in her family. It is a term used to control and discipline young girls during the years. Simply it means not to do anything that doesn’t look ladylike in front of society. Acting like a lady has to do with your etiquette. How a female should behave and act in the presence of others. 

Where did the word “lady” come from?

 The term lady was developed in the 19th century and was the equivalent of gentleman. It used to describe only women of high social class or status. The women during that time practiced acting more feminine and classy so suitors would give them attention. The word “lady” itself means strength and respect but has been misused to disparage women. When a girl is told to “act like a lady,” she is described as not equal and having less power than men. People who tell young girls to act feminine are basically saying girls can’t act a certain way or do things because of their gender. Gender stereotypes like this hold women back, making them believe they cannot succeed in life because of their sex. It causes as much harm as telling young boys to “man up” and not share their feelings.  

The problem with “Boys will be Boys”

We have been using stereotypes throughout history to control one gender’s behavior and not the other’s. “Boys will be boys,” for example, has always been used to excuse poor behavior in males for years. The phrase developed in 1589 Britain originating from a Latin proverb, “children are children and do childish things.” however, like the term “lady” was misused to discredit the female gender, the word “children” was switched to “boys” to excuse the attitude and actions of men all ages. The idea that aggression and bad behavior are something boys are born with and expressing that behavior is normal does wrong. Unfortunately, “Boys will be boys” has been used to justify serious offenses like sexual assault (Steubenville 2012 Rape case). The phrase leads boys to assume that they are free to do as they please without facing the consequences because of their gender. 

   What can we do?

Gender stereotyping has been harmful and prevents both men and women from developing their personal and professional abilities. It lowers self-esteem leading to depression and anxiety. We should try to eliminate gender stereotypes and educate others about its damaging effects. Talk and train parents to avoid sexist behavior and raise their boys and girls the same way. Help our children understand stereotyping, and if they feel being treated differently because of their gender, they should address it. 

Written by- Mubina C

A lie we were raised to believe

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Women are made to believe that we can have it all if we work hard enough from a very young age. It doesn’t matter how many hardships one faces. She should never quit because giving up is failing. When we grow up, we realize that having it all is a lie and sets us up to fail to make us feel worthless. When you ask a woman what she wants to achieve in life, she will give you a list of goals (even if many of the goals sound unrealistic). They are determined to accomplish every one of them, even if that means putting their mental and physical health in danger only because they don’t want to look like a failure in others’ eyes.

“According to a 2015 survey from Marshalls, ‘85% of American women ages 22-54 who have goals feel confident that they will achieve them in the next year.’ Which is hard if you are juggling four different goals on average. We ladies need to understand that, at times, it’s ok to let things be even after knowing we could or can’t do the task. Even if we have failed before at something, we should not be afraid to fail again because we learn valuable lessons from those failed attempts.

Just because society has expectations from us doesn’t mean we need to fulfill them, and if we decide to do so, it’s not necessary; we have to get it right on the first try. We work so hard to show the world how perfect we are when in reality, we are scared that we might fall short of ourselves. You could be working full time, be a stay-at-home mom, a college student; each one of us has a breaking point. At times we are overwhelmed, tired, and need to put everything aside to take care of our mental health. That is what we should be caring about rather than mentally hurting ourselves to accomplish every single goal in life. So do whatever it takes to put your mental health first, like meditation, reaching out to a friend, joining a self-esteem support group, doing your favorite hobby. It’s not the end of the world if you couldn’t accomplish some of your goals. It’s alright if you don’t have a set of goals you want to achieve. JUST BECAUSE YOU BELIEVE YOU COULD DOESN’T HAVE TO MEAN YOU SHOULD.

By-Mubina C